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Divorce through the eyes of a child

Divorce through the eyes of a child

If you’re a parent dealing with a separation or divorce, we know how complicated life can be. Such an emotionally-charged life-changing event has its personal challenges, yet sometimes our emotional responses – anger, sadness and chilled indifference to our former half – have greater impact on those we love. Our children. 

Five stages of grieving after separation or divorce

Five stages of grieving after separation or divorce

Monday, January 8, 2018 is the day family lawyers and attorneys across the globe will be bracing themselves for a crazy day, as more people will be contacting them to file for divorce or retain their services than any other day of the year.  

If you’re one of these couples, the necessary and natural process in dealing with a fundamental change like this is to grieve. Here are the five stages of grieving you will go through after separation and divorce.

Words that break a marriage ... from a woman's perspective

Words that break a marriage ... from a woman's perspective

We all hear stories from family and friends (and about their family and friends) on the issues faced in marriage, especially with their husbands. We laugh in unity, realising we are all in the same boat, and thankful it's not just us. So what is that really saying about marriage? Repeating the things your husband doesn't do is half the problem, as Alison Ledgerwood explained in her TED Talk, Getting Stuck in the Negatives. But the bigger problem is what's being said, not what's not getting done!

How quick are we to blame?

How quick are we to blame?

We've all done it, started yelling at the kids because we tripped over their toys in the middle of the room. But aside from those instances, how quick are we to blame others for every problem in our life? Separation is the Olympic-sized life event when it comes to blame as it's cast back and forth at record speed, but it started years before in our relationship.

Why is marriage the most important contract we ever enter into but the least we actively work on to succeed?

Why is marriage the most important contract we ever enter into but the least we actively work on to succeed?

We spend more money on improving our skills for work and more time on keeping ourselves fit and healthy than we do in the relationship we are supposed to value the most. Since people can't seem to understand the basics to a good marriage, let's relate it to work since you're there most of the day ...

Society has a divorce complex fuelled by the media and it's hurting everybody

Society has a divorce complex fuelled by the media and it's hurting everybody

It's clear that society has a divorce complex fuelled by the media and it's hurting everybody. The reason it took me so long the separate is that I feared being labelled a failure, a bad parent, and 'one of them'! Why did I think that, why do a lot of people think that?