We all hear stories from family and friends (and about their family and friends) on the issues faced in marriage, especially with their husbands. We laugh in unity, realising we are all in the same boat, and thankful it's not just us. So what is that really saying about marriage? Repeating the things your husband doesn't do is half the problem, as Alison Ledgerwood explained in her TED Talk, Getting Stuck in the Negatives. But the bigger problem is what's being said, not what's not getting done!
If you've recently separated and still not sure what to do, the first priority is to put your kids first and agree on an Interim Parenting Guidelines Agreement. But how do you do that when your world is falling apart, you're an emotional wreck, your stress levels are through the roof and you feel like it's only cello tape holding you together?
We've all done it, started yelling at the kids because we tripped over their toys in the middle of the room. But aside from those instances, how quick are we to blame others for every problem in our life? Separation is the Olympic-sized life event when it comes to blame as it's cast back and forth at record speed, but it started years before in our relationship.
We spend more money on improving our skills for work and more time on keeping ourselves fit and healthy than we do in the relationship we are supposed to value the most. Since people can't seem to understand the basics to a good marriage, let's relate it to work since you're there most of the day ...