Five stages of grieving after separation or divorce

Five stages of grieving after separation or divorce

Monday, January 8, 2018 is the day family lawyers and attorneys across the globe will be bracing themselves for a crazy day, as more people will be contacting them to file for divorce or retain their services than any other day of the year.  

If you’re one of these couples, the necessary and natural process in dealing with a fundamental change like this is to grieve. Here are the five stages of grieving you will go through after separation and divorce.

Are you the woodpecker who kills the holiday spirit?

Are you the woodpecker who kills the holiday spirit?

Holidays should be a joyous time of year so why does it cause so much stress for families? There seems to be at least one major meltdown every day and it's all to do with the woodpecker. The woodpecker has been in our family for generations, maybe in yours too. It always seemed to appear on Christmas Day.

Words that break a marriage ... from a woman's perspective

Words that break a marriage ... from a woman's perspective

We all hear stories from family and friends (and about their family and friends) on the issues faced in marriage, especially with their husbands. We laugh in unity, realising we are all in the same boat, and thankful it's not just us. So what is that really saying about marriage? Repeating the things your husband doesn't do is half the problem, as Alison Ledgerwood explained in her TED Talk, Getting Stuck in the Negatives. But the bigger problem is what's being said, not what's not getting done!

Just separated? Put the kids first and follow our Interim Parenting Guidelines Agreement

Just separated? Put the kids first and follow our Interim Parenting Guidelines Agreement

If you've recently separated and still not sure what to do, the first priority is to put your kids first and agree on an Interim Parenting Guidelines Agreement. But how do you do that when your world is falling apart, you're an emotional wreck, your stress levels are through the roof and you feel like it's only cello tape holding you together?

How quick are we to blame?

How quick are we to blame?

We've all done it, started yelling at the kids because we tripped over their toys in the middle of the room. But aside from those instances, how quick are we to blame others for every problem in our life? Separation is the Olympic-sized life event when it comes to blame as it's cast back and forth at record speed, but it started years before in our relationship.