We all hear stories from family and friends (and about their family and friends) on the issues faced in marriage, especially with their husbands. We laugh in unity, realising we are all in the same boat, and thankful it's not just us. So what is that really saying about marriage? Repeating the things your husband doesn't do is half the problem, as Alison Ledgerwood explained in her TED Talk, Getting Stuck in the Negatives. But the bigger problem is what's being said, not what's not getting done!