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Weekends without the kids after a separation ... what do you do?

Weekends without the kids after a separation ... what do you do?

Those first few months after separating are always the hardest when you have weekends without the kids ... what do you do? As the months progress, those empty weekends have to be filled with something to do otherwise you will have to put on a swim ring to wade around in your own self pity. Here are some suggestions to make those weekends precious and not a drag!

Protecting your digital privacy and security after a separation

Protecting your digital privacy and security after a separation

Time and time again I hear people say their ex accessed their phone, computer, emails or social media accounts after they separated. So why are we so lax on security? Convenience and poor memory! We've all been culprits at creating passwords that are a mix of personal data – ours, our kids or street numbers. Then we duplicate across everything so we don't forget! So make sure you protect your digital privacy and security after a separation.

Top Australian Meetup groups for separated parents

Top Australian Meetup groups for separated parents

So it’s a long weekend and you don't have the kids or an invitation to join other families for a BBQ or drinks. It's time to meet new people and a Meetup is the best way to find others in the same situation as you. We've rounded up the key Meetups for separated and divorced parents around Australia. If nothing below rocks your boat, join groups with shared interests and you'll have a busier social life in your 'off days*' than before you went separate ways.

Divorce through the eyes of a child

Divorce through the eyes of a child

If you’re a parent dealing with a separation or divorce, we know how complicated life can be. Such an emotionally-charged, life-changing event has its personal challenges, but sometimes our emotional responses – anger, sadness and chilled indifference to our former half – have a greater impact on those we love. Our children. 

Five stages of grieving after separation or divorce

Five stages of grieving after separation or divorce

On the first working Monday of the year, family lawyers and attorneys across the globe brace themselves for a crazy day. More people will be asking to file for divorce or retain their services on that day than any other day of the year.

If you’re one of these couples, the necessary and natural process in dealing with a fundamental change like this is to grieve. Here are the five stages of grieving you will go through after a separation or divorce.

Words that break a marriage ... from a woman's perspective

Words that break a marriage ... from a woman's perspective

We all share stories with family and friends about the daily issues we face managing a family... especially regarding our husbands. We laugh in unity, relieved that we are all in the same boat and thankful that it's not just us. But what is this really saying about marriage? Repeating the things your husband doesn't do is half the problem, as Alison Ledgerwood explains in her TED Talk, Getting Stuck in the Negatives.  However the bigger problem is what is being said - not what isn’t getting done!

How quick are we to blame?

How quick are we to blame?

We've all done it, started yelling at the kids because we tripped over their toys in the middle of the room. But aside from those instances, how quick are we to blame others for every problem in our life? Separation is the Olympic-sized life event when it comes to blame as it's cast back and forth at record speed, but it started years before in our relationship.

The final step to take before you separate or divorce

The final step to take before you separate or divorce

Why is marriage the most important contract we ever enter into but the least we actively work on to succeed? We spend more money on improving our skills for work and more time on keeping ourselves fit and healthy than we do in the relationship we are supposed to value the most. Here is the final step to take before you separate or divorce.

Society has a divorce complex fuelled by the media and it's hurting everybody

Society has a divorce complex fuelled by the media and it's hurting everybody

It's clear that society has a divorce complex fuelled by the media and it's hurting everybody. The reason it took me so long the separate was that I feared being labelled a failure, a bad parent, and 'one of them'! Why did I think that? Why do a lot of people think that?

Top round-up of Meetup groups for separated parents in California

Top round-up of Meetup groups for separated parents in California

So its a long weekend and you don't have the kids or invitations to join other families for a BBQ or drinks? It's time to meet new people and Meetup is the best way to find others in the same situation as you. We've rounded up the key Meetups for separated/divorced parents around California so get out there and get your social life buzzing again.

The perks of being a single parent

The perks of being a single parent

While there are hundreds of Facebook pages, Twitter feeds and blogs that re-enforce the woes of being a single parent, we thought it was high time to look at the positives. So every day I am going to add to this list to share 100 positive sides of being a single parent. I would love to hear your suggestions if you would like to share. Enjoy!

Appreciate what you have, not what you haven't

Appreciate what you have, not what you haven't

It's very easy to get trapped in the 'glass half empty' cycle - especially when you've been through a major life-changer like separation and lose the ability to appreciate what you have. While it can be comforting to stay put at your own pity party with gin and tonic in hand, life's too short not to be happy, so here is the Happiness Institute's advice for being happy ...