Words that break a marriage ... from a woman's perspective

Words that break a marriage ... from a woman's perspective

We all share stories with family and friends about the daily issues we face managing a family... especially regarding our husbands. We laugh in unity, relieved that we are all in the same boat and thankful that it's not just us. But what is this really saying about marriage? Repeating the things your husband doesn't do is half the problem, as Alison Ledgerwood explains in her TED Talk, Getting Stuck in the Negatives.  However the bigger problem is what is being said - not what isn’t getting done!

How quick are we to blame?

How quick are we to blame?

We've all done it, started yelling at the kids because we tripped over their toys in the middle of the room. But aside from those instances, how quick are we to blame others for every problem in our life? Separation is the Olympic-sized life event when it comes to blame as it's cast back and forth at record speed, but it started years before in our relationship.

The final step to take before you separate or divorce

The final step to take before you separate or divorce

Why is marriage the most important contract we ever enter into but the least we actively work on to succeed? We spend more money on improving our skills for work and more time on keeping ourselves fit and healthy than we do in the relationship we are supposed to value the most. Here is the final step to take before you separate or divorce.

Society has a divorce complex fuelled by the media and it's hurting everybody

Society has a divorce complex fuelled by the media and it's hurting everybody

It's clear that society has a divorce complex fuelled by the media and it's hurting everybody. The reason it took me so long the separate was that I feared being labelled a failure, a bad parent, and 'one of them'! Why did I think that? Why do a lot of people think that?

Girls need their dads - don't go for sole custody

Girls need their dads - don't go for sole custody

I was having a conversation with a mom the other day who had just separated and wanted to go for 100% custody of her two girls. My first question was, 'Is he a bad father? Is he an alcoholic, drug-user, or violent? 'No', was her answer, 'he just won't bring them up as well as I would!' What could I say? What should I say? 'Does he love them?' Her answer was, 'well yes of course ...

Top round-up of Meetup groups for separated parents in California

Top round-up of Meetup groups for separated parents in California

So its a long weekend and you don't have the kids or invitations to join other families for a BBQ or drinks? It's time to meet new people and Meetup is the best way to find others in the same situation as you. We've rounded up the key Meetups for separated/divorced parents around California so get out there and get your social life buzzing again.

Successful shared parenting – starting right

Successful shared parenting – starting right

After having conversations with parents about how to manage children between two households, you soon realise that many parents are overwhelmed with what has to be discussed and organized with their ex to ensure everybody stays sane. An Australian support service, Relationships Australia, has produced a great parenting plan document that walks you though all the areas needing resolution, and is relevant to any family in any country. Here is a quick overview ...

The perks of being a single parent

The perks of being a single parent

While there are hundreds of Facebook pages, Twitter feeds and blogs that re-enforce the woes of being a single parent, we thought it was high time to look at the positives. So every day I am going to add to this list to share 100 positive sides of being a single parent. I would love to hear your suggestions if you would like to share. Enjoy!