Holidays should be a joyous time of year, so why does it cause so much stress for families? There seems to be at least one major meltdown every day and it's all to do with the woodpecker. The woodpecker has been in our family for generations and it might be in yours too. It always seemed to appear on Christmas Day.
We all share stories with family and friends about the daily issues we face managing a family... especially regarding our husbands. We laugh in unity, relieved that we are all in the same boat and thankful that it's not just us. But what is this really saying about marriage? Repeating the things your husband doesn't do is half the problem, as Alison Ledgerwood explains in her TED Talk, Getting Stuck in the Negatives. However the bigger problem is what is being said - not what isn’t getting done!
We've all done it, started yelling at the kids because we tripped over their toys in the middle of the room. But aside from those instances, how quick are we to blame others for every problem in our life? Separation is the Olympic-sized life event when it comes to blame as it's cast back and forth at record speed, but it started years before in our relationship.
We spend more money on improving our skills for work and more time on keeping ourselves fit and healthy than we do in the relationship we are supposed to value the most. Since people can't seem to understand the basics to a good marriage, let's relate it to work since you're there most of the day ...