It's clear that society has a divorce complex fuelled by the media and it's hurting everybody. The reason it took me so long the separate was that I feared being labelled a failure, a bad parent, and 'one of them'! Why did I think that? Why do a lot of people think that?
Successful shared parenting – starting right
After having conversations with parents about how to manage children between two households, you soon realise that many parents are overwhelmed with what has to be discussed and organized with their ex to ensure everybody stays sane. An Australian support service, Relationships Australia, has produced a great parenting plan document that walks you though all the areas needing resolution, and is relevant to any family in any country. Here is a quick overview ...
Feeling guilty is natural but is it realistic?
Children don't forget the fights
We've all done it. Let our anger fly and throw a barrage of spiteful words at our partner in front of the kids. Even behind closed doors, we know they can hear everything, so why do we do it? ‘Children are like emotional Geiger counters,” says E. Mark Cummings, psychologist at Notre Dame University, who, along with colleagues, has published hundreds of papers over twenty years on the subject.