Shared care is the hardest part of any separation, as not being able to see your children every day can leave a big hole in your heart. It’s an immense transition for you, your coparent and your children, so it will take time to adjust and find what works for everybody. Here are Divvito’s top co-parenting tips around shared care arrangements of the kids.
Communication will be the hardest thing you have to do as a co-parent. Here are Divvito’s top co-parenting tips for communicating about the kids. To make it easier to understand, we’re going to relate it to a game of football. To play the game, you need four things – two teams, rules, referees and a place to play. Without these, there is no game.
Those first few months after separating are always the hardest when you have weekends without the kids ... what do you do? As the months progress, those empty weekends have to be filled with something to do otherwise you will have to put on a swim ring to wade around in your own self pity. Here are some suggestions to make those weekends precious and not a drag!
Time and time again I hear people say their ex accessed their phone, computer, emails or social media accounts after they separated. So why are we so lax on security? Convenience and poor memory! We've all been culprits at creating passwords that are a mix of personal data – ours, our kids or street numbers. Then we duplicate across everything so we don't forget! So make sure you protect your digital privacy and security after a separation.
If you've recently separated and not sure what to do, it’s hard to navigate advice when your world is falling apart, you're an emotional wreck, your stress levels are through the roof, and you feel like it's only cello tape that’s holding you together. We’re here to help! Take advantage of Divvito's Co-parenting Resource Toolkit to make the process as stress-free as possible.
So it’s a long weekend and you don't have the kids or an invitation to join other families for a BBQ or drinks. It's time to meet new people and a Meetup is the best way to find others in the same situation as you. We've rounded up the key Meetups for separated and divorced parents around Australia. If nothing below rocks your boat, join groups with shared interests and you'll have a busier social life in your 'off days*' than before you went separate ways.
Oh, if only communication was easy! Misunderstandings and misinterpretations can cause so much stress for parents after separation, especially if emotions are running high. The best way to keep co-parenting communication on track is to use the BIFF response – Brief, Informative, Friendly and Firm.
Do you believe it serendipity? I do. I had just finished an interview with a parent the other day who had shared their sorrows at the viciousness of their ex-partners messages before using Divvito. They asked me why I thought those who love us the most could be the cruellest. I didn’t have an answer, and was still pondering the enormity of their question when a song came on the radio – If I could turn back time.
If you’re a parent dealing with a separation or divorce, we know how complicated life can be. Such an emotionally-charged, life-changing event has its personal challenges, but sometimes our emotional responses – anger, sadness and chilled indifference to our former half – have a greater impact on those we love. Our children.
You've just picked your kids up from school and your youngest enthusiastically demands they want to join the football team ... when only last week they wanted to join the chess club! "Ok honey, let's chat about this when we get home," is your immediate answer as what was once an easy decision becomes slightly more complicated now that you're separated! Negotiating with your ex can sometimes be like negotiating a convoy of aid through a war-torn country, so here are three tips to reaching an agreement on extra-curricular activities with your ex.
We've all been there – the dreaded blow up. Let me paint the picture for you. It's Saturday afternoon and you're out for coffee with a friend when you receive a message from your ex. They have just sent through an expense that you haven't agreed to split ... and it's over $300! Oh boy, it's on again!
On the first working Monday of the year, family lawyers and attorneys across the globe brace themselves for a crazy day. More people will be asking to file for divorce or retain their services on that day than any other day of the year.
If you’re one of these couples, the necessary and natural process in dealing with a fundamental change like this is to grieve. Here are the five stages of grieving you will go through after a separation or divorce.
Co-parenting after divorce is always filled with challenges but don't despair! The one person who can change how you manage the emotional roller coaster called divorce is you. Take on one or all of these kickass co-parenting resolutions for 2018 and make this year a kickass year for you and your kids.