If co-parenting communication with your ex up to this point has been full of negative rants, blame, demands, anger, sarcasm or belittling (need I go on?), it’s sometimes very hard to move forward positively. The best thing you could do is ask for a communication truce.
We've all done it. Let our anger fly and throw a barrage of spiteful words at our partner in front of the kids. Even behind closed doors, we know they can hear everything, so why do we do it? ‘Children are like emotional Geiger counters,” says E. Mark Cummings, psychologist at Notre Dame University, who, along with colleagues, has published hundreds of papers over twenty years on the subject.