Why do we hurt the people we love and how Dani could have helped Cher?

Why do we hurt the people we love and how Dani could have helped Cher?

Do you believe it serendipity? I do. I had just finished an interview with a parent the other day who had shared their sorrows at the viciousness of their ex-partners messages before using Divvito. They asked me why I thought those who love us the most could be the cruellest. I didn’t have an answer, and was still pondering the enormity of their question when a song came on the radio – If I could turn back time.

Divorce through the eyes of a child

Divorce through the eyes of a child

If you’re a parent dealing with a separation or divorce, we know how complicated life can be. Such an emotionally-charged life-changing event has its personal challenges, but sometimes our emotional responses – anger, sadness and chilled indifference to our former half – have a greater impact on those we love. Our children. 

How to agree on your children’s extra-curricular activities

How to agree on your children’s extra-curricular activities

You've just picked your kids up from school and your youngest enthusiastically demands they want to join the football team ... when only last week they wanted to join the chess club! "Ok honey, let's chat about this when we get home," is your immediate answer as what was once an easy decision becomes slightly more complicated now that you're separated! Negotiating with your ex can sometimes be like negotiating a convoy of aid through a war-torn country, so here are three tips to reaching an agreement on extra-curricular activities with your ex.

The best way to keep communication on track? Use a bit of BIFF

The best way to keep communication on track? Use a bit of BIFF

Oh, if only communication was easy! Misunderstandings and misinterpretations can cause so much stress for parents after separation, especially if emotions are running high. The best way to keep communication on track is to use a bit of BIFF. No, not biff ... a sharp blow with the fist, but BIFF meaning Brief, Informative, Friendly and Firm communication. 

Five stages of grieving after separation or divorce

Five stages of grieving after separation or divorce

Monday, January 8, 2018 is the day family lawyers and attorneys across the globe will be bracing themselves for a crazy day. More people will be asking to file for divorce or retain their services than any other day of the year.

If you’re one of these couples, the necessary and natural process in dealing with a fundamental change like this is to grieve. Here are the five stages of grieving you will go through after separation and divorce.